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“There’s Nothing to Be Afraid of…”

2012 March 21

Photo by Carlos Rosemberg

These are words we just don’t use.

Our youngest is afraid of the dark. Even though Ethan (not even close to his real name) shares a room with his older brother Josh (again, not even close to his real name), at least three bedtimes a week he expresses some concern over the night time wanderings of monsters, zombies and other intruders.

Given some of Ethan’s experiences with people tramping in and out of his former home and some of the things he’s seen I can understand where that comes from; but also a large percentage of little boys and girls are afraid of the dark.

We never invalidate Ethan’s fear by telling him there’s nothing to be afraid of.

Instead, we make our case.

We remind him that his brother is right there in the other bed. We’re next door. The dogs will know before any of us if someone or something is lurking about or around the house.  Even the cats, who he loves, would alert us if something wasn’t right.

Having a flashlight within easy reach on his night stand helps, too. And it comes in handy for late night trips to the bathroom, which solves another problem.

This way we make Ethan and Josh feel protected and watched over without us telling him he’s being silly or some other nonsense because he’s afraid of the dark.

After all, the dark can be scary.

8 Responses leave one →
  1. Susan permalink
    March 21, 2012

    Well said and well done. Have dealt with this one through two of my children and now my granddaughter.

  2. Kent permalink
    March 21, 2012

    Thanks, Susan. I also added a line: I gave him a flash light. It seems to help on a couple of levels.

  3. kim sharp permalink
    March 21, 2012

    Out of the many, many issues we dealt with that one we thankfully missed. Bill collects flashlights and has given them to the grandkids. Go through a lot of batteries but have kept the monsters at bay. Guess monsters are scared of the light.

    • Kent permalink*
      April 25, 2012

      Hi Kim,

      I remember as a child loving to play with flashlights. We always seemed to have them, so it was a ready solution to our little problem(s).


  4. March 22, 2012

    What an awesome way to handle the fear.

    • Kent permalink*
      April 25, 2012

      Thank you, Tishrei. It works for us.

  5. Michelle Goff permalink
    April 13, 2012

    Great ideas for keeping the monsters at bay. Young kids are usually afraid of the dark….I would imagine children with an unstable homelife, such as fosters, have those fears multiplied. You guys are doing an awesome job with these kids.

    • Kent permalink*
      April 25, 2012

      Hi Michelle,

      Thank you for the comment!

      My hard drive crashed last month and there was a delay getting it back. I’m just getting up and running again.

      The kids are keeping us busy too 🙂 We have our setbacks but we’re making a lot of progress. The steps forward are outnumbering the steps back.


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