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Should You Tell Others What You’re Doing?

2011 December 5


“I would think they’d be grateful to be given a home,” my good, sweet, naively innocent friend Sharon said when I told her Jennifer and I were going to our first informational meeting on foster parenting.

Now, if upon reading that you thought to yourself, “You got that right,” please move on to some other blog and don’t even think about adopting pets, let alone fostering children. On the other hand, if upon reading that you thought, “Oh, bless her heart, she sounds so cute,” stick with me.

Keeping our plans to ourselves is a sign that we’re not really committed; we’re keeping our options open and giving ourselves an out.

Telling others is a way of affirming your calling; it’s an outward sign of your acceptance of what God is laying on your heart.

We do it for other things, big and small, all the time:

I’m going to lose weight…. I’m going to find another job… I’m going to read Moby Dick….

Of course if we don’t tell anyone we avoid those awkward questions about why we’re still shopping at the big and fat store, why no one wants to hire us, and why we don’t get it when someone makes a reference to Queequeg.

Or maybe you’re fine with the way you are, you really do like your job even though it’s frustrating at times, and Tom Clancy or JD Robb are more your style. There’s nothing wrong with that!

But we all like to share our dreams and we need to let other people in on them to do that.

Yes, you will get well meaning responses from like the one from my friend; but that will give you an opportunity to share what professional foster parenting is and some of the issues kids in our own community are facing.

Okay, you’ll have to hear the other response, or the classic, “You’re just taking on other people’s problems.” That will give you the chance to say, “That is so wierd! What a coincidence! So are most of these children!”

Sure, you will have to deal with that friend of yours coming up to you a week later and asking, “So, did you get any kids yet?” So what? They’re showing their excitement for you! 

Most of all you’ll also find the support and encouragement you will need along the way; unexpected help;and lots of people praying for you!

This is an exciting time! Lives are about to change!

Should you tell others? Just try keeping something like this to yourself!

Photo: “Yell” by Yamamoto Ortiz

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  1. Susan permalink
    December 5, 2011

    You will be the fortunate ones. Yes, the children will benefit, but you will grow in ways you did not even know it was possible to grow. “Other people’s problems” give you this opportunity. I think it is fantastic that you are willing to open your homes, and much more importantly, your hearts to this chance to make a difference in the life of a child. What could be more important than that or more meaningful to your own existences? So glad to hear you are ready for the comments, questions, attitudes (good and bad), and this opportunity.

    • December 6, 2011

      Thank you, Susan.

      Mostly we’ve received alot of support and encouragement. My brother told me his first thought was how much sense it made and so it wasn’t as big of a surprise to him!

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